Being Aloof

Is it difficult to become aloof ?

Would you like to learn how to draw the attention of others without actually being forward? There are several ways to go about doing this and one is to be an aloof. So what exactly does an aloof do? They appear disinterested in things that are going on around them. The first thing you will want to do is stay away from others conflicts as it’s not your business so your input is not needed. This helps to ensure that you will not be drawn in to any turmoil that may arise. Even though during the argument many may think you are being unfair or angry at you for not choosing sides later they will respect you for standing your ground and staying out of their problems. Try to be serene which will help you to stay focused on your goals. Try not to let anything faze you and always be prepared for any type of event. This tranquility will permeate the mannerisms you have worked hard to sustain and this will be translated as cool to the public. This will signal to others that your detachment allows you to navigate through life during good times as well as challenging times without becoming outraged or angered. Believing in yourself will give off the impression of confidence but remember the line between being confident and arrogant. No one likes an arrogant person. You don’t want to appear as though you have low self esteem but again do not come off as being god’s gift to the world. Make sure to never show pain. If you recently heard about a rumor that’s floating around about you try to ignore it. To be an aloof you must be able to handle pain with as much grace and dignity as possible.

Even if you have to cry when you are alone make sure to keep your composure when you are in the public eye. If people see that you give in or become a blubbering mess at the first sight of trouble then things are not going to go well for you. Smiling mysteriously or appearing to always be happy will keep people guessing. They will want to be near you just to try to figure you out. Try not to talk a lot especially about yourself. Sometimes less really is more. If you are asked a question answer it politely with an answer that is short and to the point. Do not use words such as “like” or “um” as they are beneath the aloof of an individual. Never speak just because you have the opportunity to or because you feel as though it’s necessary. Body language can be good so use things such as a hand gesture or nod to convey your answers. When you do speak try to be precise and informative as more people will be interested in what you have to say when you choose to talk. One important thing to remember when being aloof is to never compromise who you are. That includes your style, culture, speech or anything else that makes you who you are. Treat others as your equal but at any time if they become disrespectful alter to a more condescending edge. Remember no one can make you feel inferior unless you give them your consent. By believing in yourself, staying strong, and being aloof will help you grow as an individual.